I've always believed in the idea of checking your gut. In fact this was one of the first business rules I learned when I started working at the famous ad agency Goodby, Silverstein and Partners.
Your gut never lies, nor does your blood pressure. The trouble is, like most things in life we get moving so fast our rational decisions take over. We move in a direction that is not fitting for ourselves.
Learning to speak up for ourselves as an adult takes much practice. This is only the result of many years during childhood where we were forced to contain our emotions and sustain great behavior. Behavior is often more important that personal expression, freedom or emotion.
Changes in life require two key ingredients: an active will to change a set behavior and the knowledge that starting small will eventually help drive that big life change you are desiring.
I'm in the process of making my own small changes. This has been the first "fun" week in my marriage for years. My husband and I have made love a lot, laughed at and with each other, had hard and really productive conversations, enjoyed each other and our children so much more.
We've also interacted with both sides of the family working hard to continue our changes in the midst of other personality and set roles. We've begun to say "no" and forge ahead with the best plans for our family. It feels as thought we are drawing an imaginary bubble around our family that cautions, this unit can function on its own.
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